It was always my understanding of bi being a person that swing both ways. They like men and woman, they would prefer one at a time or both. Since we've entered the swinger's world, I learned of a new term called bi-curious. This is usually when a man or a woman that is NOT bi "yet" but they have thought about being with someone of the same sex, and curious to try things out see if they like it. Just the other day I was having a conversation with my wife that brought in a new concept/term called, bi in-between. Well this is what I called it. This is where the person is not quite bi yet, but still kinda curious, even though they have already had a few encounters under their belt. I don't know that I fully can accept this explanation. I saw this as black and White. either your bi (have had experiences) or bi-curious (have none). So you guys tell me, is there such a thing as bi in-between????

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I see it all the time. It happens more often than you would think and it happens to everyone. You meet someone online, whether it be a couple or a single. They send you a message saying they like your profile and want you to check out theirs. You do and decide that their fantasies and ideas of swinging coincide with your so you give then you yahoo or msn handle so you can chat. The inevitable picture swapping starts out well enough with you both showing a pic from your profile to see who will bring something new to the table first. Of course now you want to see a face pic and they deliver. Now you find yourself wondering "what the hell" as you are completely turned off by their looks. How do you get yourself out of this situation? How do you say "hey the conversation was great till I saw your face". Oh and they just told you they love your pics.

Now you don't want to be rude or burn bridges by just closing the chat, so ladies and gentlemenwhat is the proper way to let them down at this point? How do you say "I'm/We're not interested" after showing so much interest before that very moment? The answer is as simple and complicated as the very situation you are in. The truth is there is no easy way to do it. You can't say I'm not attracted to you cause your one brown tooth is just not attractive or the fact that you look like a monkey mated with a lizard just isn't appealing to me and expect it to come across positive. The best thing to do though is to tell them cause it would be even worse to lead them on, cause believe it or not, it really is a small world and you never know when you might be at the club hanging out and guess who comes up and taps you on the shoulder? The very people you thought you'd never have to see so a little lie wouldn't hurt. So what do you say then when they ask you what you think? Well I find it's easiest to be completely honest. They can take it or leave it but in the end they should respect you for being honest.

They may call you superficial, but the truth is you're not looking for a soulmate or to get married, as you probably are already married or at least involved in a serious relationship. Swinging is about fantasyand no body fantasizes about getting busy with a boogawolf. The truth of the situation is this: No matter how pretty you and your partner think you both are, there is always someone out there that will disagree with you so don't take it personal if you are not what someone is looking for, and expect to be disappointed sometimes when you see someone's picture. If your not interested tell them and make it easy for people to tell you if your are not their type.

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A common question among the curious is: How do I get into swinging? Although this should definitely be one of the first questions that comes to mind, it is not the best question to ask. If you are in a relationship and are interested in the lifestyle, you must first master the art of communication with your partner. Most "green" couples that I have met have barely spoken about swinging before the find themselves either in a lifestyle club or even worse, in a situation wondering how they got there, what they got themselves into and/or how to get out of the situation with their relationship still intact. If you are not comfortable talking about what you like with your partner sexually and if you and your partner have not mastered you own sex life, then swinging is probably not the road to take just yet.

For those of you that have a great sex life and are looking for spice, you are on the right track, but you must lay some ground rules first. There is no right or wrong answer, as long as both parties are comfortable with the rules. Gentlemen, if you are itching to have sex with another woman and think that a threesome is going to be the perfect addition, then you also need to wrap you mind around the fact that you wife is probably going to eventually if not up front, want to get busy with another guy. If you can't handle that, then swinging is not for you. For those of you who haven't figured it out yet, women rule the world of sex.

Don't believe me? Keep this in mind before you doubt my theory. Women have been deciding the who, the when, and the where of their sex lives since they where little girls and learned that boys don't have cooties. Little boys have been trying to get in their pants since they learned what an erection was and most women have mastered, in some way, the skill of getting what they want before sex is even on the table, whether that's love or a new car! So fellas, take care of your woman, be prepared for her to be more into it than you are, and she'll take care of you. The bottom line is, make sure your relationship is as healthy as it can be before you decide to bring someone else into it cause that’s the last thing you want is for something that was supposed to make you closer, becoming the end of your relationship.

Author:Von @ swingerology.com